Sunday's Random Thought
That Wasn’t Patience… That Was Avoidance
May 31, 2026
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Recently, I pushed out a major update to my CRM.
Truth is… I should not have needed the update in the first place.
The missing piece was already in my original development plan.
I did not lack the idea. I lost sight of the scope.
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The Miss
During the initial build, I worked at a pace most people would not even attempt.
Twenty-hour days. Eight straight days.
I was locked in, focused, sharp, and driven.
But there is a cost to that kind of pace. At some point, your mind checks out before your body does.
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I forgot something critical: the API that would bring warm leads from my phone system into the CRM.
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That Feeling
When I realized what I had forgotten, I was disappointed.
Not because I could not fix it.
Because I knew fixing it meant going back into something that already worked, touching code I did not want to disturb, and risking breaking the system.
So I did what a lot of people do.
I delayed it.
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Let’s call it what it was: it was not patience. It was avoidance.
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The Dread Phase
When I finally went back into developer mode, I did not feel inspired.
I did not feel creative. I felt resistance.
You can be fully capable of doing something and still not feel like doing what needs to be done.
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The Reality of Execution
I woke up at 4:00 AM like I do, but that day had one purpose: do the thing I did not want to do.
What should have taken a few hours turned into an all-day grind that ran deep into the next morning.
I made it worse by looking for shortcuts.
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The Shortcut Trap
Every lazy attempt created another problem.
I broke the phone app. I disrupted parts of the CRM. I complicated the very fix I had been avoiding.
That was the kind of day where throwing a laptop across the room starts sounding like a real option — until you remember laptops cost money and files do not always forgive tantrums.
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This Was Not About Patience
Some people would say, “Be patient with yourself.”
I do not like how loosely people use patience.
This was not a matter of patience. It was a matter of accountability.
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I had to own:
• Working at a pace that burned out my recall
• Not referring to my own development plan often enough
• Not structuring the build to make future updates safer
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Accountability Moves Better Than Excuses
Once I accepted my role in creating the problem, I got closer to the mindset needed to fix it.
Accountability does not always feel good, but it gets you moving.
The way people often use patience can do the opposite. It can become a soft word for delaying action.
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What Are We Actually Waiting For?
People say patience is a virtue. Sometimes it is.
But how many times has someone told you to be patient, and then you found yourself waiting indefinitely for something they never clearly defined?
If circumstances beyond your control require waiting, that is one thing. But when progress is up to you, what are you really expecting by delaying?
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A Better Definition of Patience
Patience is not always waiting.
Sometimes patience is suspending intrusive thoughts long enough to do the right thing without letting frustration run the show.
But if you already know what needs to be done and you are just delaying because you do not feel like doing it, that is not patience. That is procrastination wearing a nicer outfit.
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Ask Better Questions
Whether you are asking patience of yourself or someone else is asking patience of you, extend the dialogue.
• What are we waiting for?
• What does waiting change?
• Who is responsible for progress?
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If it is in your control…
it is not patience. It is a decision.
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Final Thought
There are times in life where patience is required.
But there are far more times where action is.
The trick is being honest enough to know which one is really being asked of you.
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